When my husband and I chose parenthood through adoption, I knew that I would be mothering a child who carried deep hurt. These days, children are generally removed due to adversity in their birth families, so trauma is inevitable. I did the reading and training in readiness for being the mum I wanted to be.
Certified Instructor Catherine Fischer (Ann Arbor, MI) gives you practical ideas of what to do and say when your child hits, bits, throw toys, and acts aggre…
What I remember is that she felt defeated in the face of her child’s aggression. All she’d done was say “no” to the playdate, and he’d hit her. In the park. In front of everyone. Just like that. With no warning. How had she put it? “Out of the blue,” I think were her exact
“My daughter, who is seven, always wanted to sleep in my bed. She went through a period of crying every night about sleeping alone. I listened to her cry each time, hoping it was doing some good, but I saw little relief or change. “One night, however, she became very mad and started trying to
Hand in Hand Parenting instructors Michelle Carlson and Kirsten Nottleson show you how to handle aggression with play in this Facebook Live demonstration.
A child’s aggressive behavior is driven by fears. Shouting, getting angry yourself or giving harsh punishment only adds to them and keeps the aggressive cycl…
A Guest Post with Roma Norriss Tantrums are an inevitable element of childhood. No matter what we do, beginning at around age two, big upsets and crying always appear. It can be as late as six before we see them stop, although many parents see big cries from much older children too – something
Sooner or later, almost every child gets carried away by strong emotions. For some children, it’s an everyday occurrence. We parents can get carried away ourselves, especially when we have one or more children whose feelings erupt often, and don’t soothe easily. Why do children become prone to hitting, kicking or biting? If a
Early one morning, my seven-year-old daughter began to be aggressive with her younger brother. She insisted that he play with her—and on her terms. He did his best to tell her no, but he wasn’t getting through. The situation was escalating quickly. I decided to invite my daughter for five minutes of Special Time, as
Mânuța aceea mică și plăpândă, care încape perfect în a ta, se ridică brusc și lovește fulgerător colegul de joacă. Lacrimile curg și tu nu știi dacă să pedepsești, să cerți sau să mângâi. Societatea îți cere totuși să intervii, deci trebuie să te hotărăști. Alexandra Moga și Irina Nichifiriuc îți dau o mână de
Dear Hand in Hand, My child is having serious aggression issues at school. She’s been acting out a lot. Her teachers tell me she throws tantrums and she cries loudly when she gets told off. I’m not sure how to respond – to the teachers or my daughter! I want a good school experience for
Mușcă?! Împinge?! Trage de păr?! Copilul tău s-a năpustit vreodată asupra altuia și l-a rănit? Poate un alt copil agresiv l-a deranjat pe al tău? Aproape toți părinții fac eforturi pentru a înțelege și a-și ajuta copiii când îi rănesc pe alții sau sunt chiar ei răniți de către alți copii. E un șoc pentru
Agresivitatea , comportament al copiilor ce ne pune aproape pe toți în impas. Toți părinții se confruntă la un moment dat cu agresivitatea copiilor. Devine exasperant, extenuant, ne copleșesc emoțiile și nu mai știm ce să facem ca să scăpăm de acest comportament. Tindem să devenim și noi agresivi la rândul nostru, să îi rănim
An emotional project is a set of persistent feelings or behaviors that come up for your child again and again. When the same feeling or behavior is triggered many times in somewhat similar situations (like always hating to go to school or daycare, or always becoming aggressive if other children crowd too close), it indicates that there’s a big hurt under the surface. To heal that hurt, you’ll need to listen many times to the same big feelings—“You don’t care about me!” or “It’s not fair! It’s never fair!” As your child cries or rages and you listen with care, the two of you together will drain that big hurt, and change your child’s overall outlook on life and on his relationship with you.
Sarah would brace herself for the onslaught of hitting, punching, and threats that usually followed her five-year-old son’s glare. “He had a lot of fear and anger,” says the mom of two. He’d head butt and yell. Here’s what helped.
I have been trying to figure out respectful and efficient ways of supporting my six years old unload his negative emotions for a few years. It’s been very hard, even more, because there is no such struggle for me with my two other kids. He is my eldest son and he has a lot of pent-up,
“Are your parents strict?” Remember when that was all anyone asked about parents? Now we have dozens of labels, from gentle and calm parenting to authoritative and authoritarian. We have tiger moms, and helicopter moms, we have free-range parenting, positive parenting, peaceful parenting, even unparenting. Hand in Hand’s approach is based on connection. But what
Discover Hand in Hand’s approach and an introduction to the Five Tools for calmer, connected parenting in Days 1-6 and then see how the tools work for real-life families on Days 7 and 8. Day 1: Five Tools To Transform Your ParentingDay 2: Special Time: Building Connection in MinutesDay 3: Three Steps to Setting LimitsDay 4: Staylistening: How Does Crying